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Are You Ready for a Relationship?

We've done the research, and most singles male and female say they are seriously looking for a LTR(long term relationship). The problem is that their desire to partner up does not align with their relationship readiness status, causing relationship failure, frustration and heartache.

How do you know that your ready for a relationship?

First you should understand that there are three forms of dating relationships:

Short-Term Recreational
Long-Term Committed
Mini-Marriage

1.Short-term recreational dating is where singles meet and date for fun, without any expectation of a future together. Both partners are on the same page and have agreed on predetermined boundaries. This can be a useful form of dating for singles who are not ready to commit or want to explore new relationship skills.

2.Long-term committed dating, in this type of dating your purpose is to find a life partner. You have determined your relationship criteria and are focused on building your desired future. The paradox of long term committed dating is that YOU MUST BE A FREE AGENT, staying single and available to find the partner who is right for you through scouting, sorting, screening, and testing.

3.The Mini-marriage is typically driven by fear and the need for companionship, you instantly become a couple. Partners are unaware of their own requirements and often assume they are on the same page. You act exclusive and committed crossing emotional and physical boundariies almost immediately. You ignore the red flags while crossing your fingers hoping it will just work out.

Dating is meant to be a fun and exciting learning experience that helps you discover exactly how to communicate, build trust and create intimacy with another person. Once you have a clear understanding of what you want in a relationship, you will be able to assess potential dates to determine if they meet your criteria.

A successful single practices the four essential skills of scouting. sorting, screening and testing.

Do you want to date but not sure if you're ready, email me and request the Relationship Readiness Quiz:

Denise@ask-the-love-coach.com

If you are single and dating we would like to hear from you!

Tags: dating, men, readiness, relationship, single, skills, women

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Comment by Marcie Hill on February 11, 2011 at 7:20pm: Thanks Denise.

Comment by Denise Rai on February 10, 2011 at 6:46pm: Lol... So when I coach men/women who want LTR's we go through the stages of relationship developement and discuss in detail how pre-mature sex negatively influences the outcome of authentic choice. The first three phases of attraction absolutely boost hormones that increase your sexual desires. If the chemistry is right, you could lose your mind on the spot. When creating a long term relationship it is best to manage those feelings accordingly, the hormonal boost declines over time and after the loving is gone what used to be right is wrong. You have not only acted against your best interest but you have wasted your time and possibly missed another opportunity to create the relationship you deserve. It is't easy but we are worth it!

Comment by Marcie Hill on February 10, 2011 at 6:27pm: How do you advise people NOT to engage in sexual intimacy when the attraction is normally sexual and people are normally smitten in the early stages? Ok, I know I'm getting into the money part of your biz but I'm a bit curious.

Comment by Denise Rai on February 10, 2011 at 1:35pm: Hey Marcie: I always love answering this question. Ab-SOUL-utely is the answer. The old definition of courting has been traditionally the wooing of a female by a male, includes activities such as dating (dinner and a movie, a picnic, or general time spent getting to know one another. I actually encourage my clients to court and be courted once the have selected their partner based on using the scouting, sorting, and screening techniques. The courting stage is where you learn about one another as you share experiences, also called the testing phase and does not involve sexual intimacy.

Comment by Marcie Hill on February 8, 2011 at 10:55pm: I have a question. Since I'm pretty new school (aka jacked up) when it comes to dating, do people still court?

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