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How do you answer that question? With a shoulder shrug? By squinting your eyes and repositioning your eyebrows in a let me think about that one gesture? Maybe a blank stare? Or you do you respond, "I don't know; I just am."? It's an awkward question. And I think it may be fair to say it's a question that may make some uncomfortable. It's a question that, in some instances, is accompanied by judgment. If she/he can't keep a man/woman something MUST be wrong! The question: Why are you single? The judgmental thought: This chick/dude is probably crazy as hell. Most people don't know exactly why they are single; they just know that they are. It's kind of like asking someone, "Why are you black?”
Ummm........I just am. Dating is a gamble. It will either be a hit or a miss. Similarly to hoping to walk away from the table in Vegas with big bucks in pocket, daters hope that they've met the person that they'll be having their last first kiss with. But if another dating situation bites the dust, do you deem yourself unworthy of love, undesirable, or psycho? Although you hoped to win big, the possibility of losing big is very real. Does that keep you from even contending in the next round? If your fear of losing has crippled you.......absolutely. But if you're willing to let the chips fall where they may; willing to hope for the best but be prepared for the worst; willing to release control and let God take the wheel; if your confident that whatever the odds may be....you'll still be good......then you continue to gamble with your heart with certainty that in due season you'll win big.
In the interim, accept that you are single because you're supposed to be single. Enjoy friends, family, getting lost in your own thoughts, alone time, opportunity/time for spiritual growth (we get so caught up in our relationships at times that we put this one on the back burner), being selfish, dream chasing, and being you! What God has for you--marriage, children, wealth, promotion, and etc.--is for you.......in HIS time......not yours. And I'm cool with that. For now........I'm single because I'm supposed to be that way ;-).
Submitted by Rhonda Hall
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